Mike Filigenzi wrote:...it may be that the server tried to make it up to you with the "can I do anything more for you" request. If that is what the server was trying to do, then he should have been more up front about it. "Can we do anything to make this up to you?" would have been a better request if that's what he was trying to do..
To be fair, his intentions were clear. But I suppose the problem was that we felt awkward asking for a reduction in the bill, yet we expected some gesture at the same time. So maybe that is our fault and I know it's not fair to expect restaurants to read your mind. But that's also why (in my experience) the best places take an aggressive approach to hospitality and are sensitive to not putting you in an awkward position.
That said, the food was amazing, aside from this issue the service was very attentive, and this place is very 'hot' right now in Nyc. And we would both return. So at least for the moment, I'm sure they don't need to worry too much about our feelings. I was just curious what others thought about the situation.